Acquaintance or Friend?

Many are familiar with the proverb, "A man who has friends must himself be friendly; but several translations cast a different light with the words, "a man of many companions may come to ruin." (Proverbs 18:24). The perceived contrast may be understood as the power of personal association is considered. Within a closed environment a person is bound to have close associations with others sharing the same conditions. Though a possible impetus, such shared experience in and of itself does not predicate friendship. Friendship develops from shared exploration of common interests, beliefs, goals, and purpose for living.

It is possible to think that knowing and interacting with someone over a period of years is the essence of friendship. Recently one such individual said that he thought of me as a close friend. This was surprising to hear because of our diverse interests and activities. With values diametrical to my own, he and many others are not likely to progress beyond acquaintance. Without a willingness to consider change of thought and attitude, a locked door remains between their merely being an acquaintance or becoming a friend sharing eternal values. From my observation and perception that door may only be opened by divine intervention.

The primary definition from a current dictionary defines friend as "a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts." The primary definition of acquaintance is "knowledge of a person acquired by a relationship less intimate than friendship." Trust is a rare commodity in a prison environment, yet it is a foundation stone for true friendship. If that friendship is to continue growing, it must not be neglected. Unfortunately, I must admit to my own neglect when it comes to giving time toward nurturing friendships, especially to offer support and encouragement as one transitions back into the outside world.

Scripture counsels us to not forsake our friends, reminding us that a friend loves at all times (see Proverbs 27:10 and 17:7). There are also examples of friendship to emulate such as David and Jonathan; the four gifted young men in a foreign palace; and Job with his three friends (see 1 Samuel 18:1-3; Daniel 1:6,7; Job 2:11-13). These stories are there to inspire and encourage us today. God called Abraham His friend (Isaiah 41:8), and Moses talked with God as to a friend (Exodus 33:11). In substance we are able to do the same for Christ says we are His friends (John 15:14,15).

Our future success may very well depend on our choice of friends now. We are warned about association with those who may lead us astray (Deuteronomy 13:6). Our path forward is posted: "He who walks with wise men will be wise, but companions of fools will be destroyed" Proverbs 13:20. In choosing associations on our journey forward, it is important to remember that "friendship with the world is enmity with God" James 4:4. Our friendship with God and fellow travelers will prosper when our interests, beliefs, and goals coincide with God's purpose for our lives.

[All Bible texts from NKJV]

NOTE TO READER:
I pray that my words do not suggest that as Christians we need to isolate ourselves from the presence of those who stand opposed to having God in their lives. I believe our Rubicon is a fine but distinct line.